Are You A Caregiver?

“There are only four kinds of people in the world -those who have been caregivers, those who currently are caregivers, those who will be caregivers, and those who will need caregivers.” – Rosalyn Carter

Are You A Caregiver For A Stroke Survivor?

Senior woman and caregiver talking drinking coffee File #19529675With an increasingly aging population in all developed societies, the role of family caregiver has been increasingly recognized as an important one, both functionally and economically

Caregivers are referred to as Family Caregivers, Informal Caregivers, Carers and many other names … but they are all doing the same thing:

Providing unpaid care by looking after an ill, frail or disabled family member, friend or partner.

You are a Caregiver if you are….

  • Performing tasks to help with shopping, cooking, errands, making or receiving telephone calls, transportation to medical appointments, paying bills, medication management, or home maintenance and repairs.
  • Providing personal care such as bathing, dressing, toileting, feeding or laundry.
  • Changing roles and beginning to think of a stroke survivor as depending on you for making decisions for them regarding health care, finances, etc.
  • Seeking assistance and formal services of others to stay with or provide care for a stroke survivor.
  • Arranging/coordinating outside services.
  • Considering changes in your work or living arrangements such as relocating or adjusting your work schedule to allow you more time with a stroke survivor.
  • Considering long term care placement such as trying to make a decision about a nursing home and how involved you can be day-by-day.
  • Coping with loss and dealing with difficult adjustments in your relationship.

Caregivers Have Rights Too!

Caregivers’ Bill of Rights

This powerful message first appeared in Jo Horne’s book “Caregiving: Helping an Aging Loved One”  (AARP Books, 1985), but has been adapted by many organizations and people over the years. Wendy Lustbader – a social worker, mental health counselor, author, and caregiver advocate in Seattle – is often cited as its originator. Whoever came up with it, these points can be a source of reassurance for caregivers.

I have the right:

  • To take care of myself. This is not an act of selfishness. It will give me the capability of taking better care of my loved one.
  • To seek help from others even though my loved one may object. I recognize the limits of my own endurance and strength.
  • To maintain facets of my own life that do not include the stroke survivor I provide care for, just as I would if he or she were healthy. I know that I do everything I reasonably can for this person and I have the right to do some things just for myself.
  • To get angry, be depressed and express other difficult feelings occasionally.
  • To receive consideration, affection, forgiveness and acceptance for what I do for my loved one for as long as I offer these qualities in return.
  • To take pride in what I am accomplishing and to applaud the courage it has sometimes taken to meet the needs of my loved one.
  • To protect my individuality and my right to make a life for myself that will sustain me in the time when my loved one no longer needs my full time help.
  • To expect and demand that as new strides are made in finding resources to aid persons living with illness, physical or mental challenges in our country, similar strides will be made toward aiding and supporting caregivers.
By | 2013-09-04T16:16:04+00:00 May 30th, 2013|Newsletter|0 Comments

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